This is one of the stranger things I’ve come across lately, if you talk about yourself in the third person, so refer to yourself as you, he, she or even your name, then it can lessen negative self-talk and cause a more positive emotional reaction to a situation.
I think is because we are a lot nicer to other people than we are to ourselves, you wouldn’t dream of saying some of the things you tell yourself in your head to another person, yet we talk to ourselves badly all the time.
So it makes sense that talking in the third person as if you were talking to someone else helps curb that negative self-talk and turn it into someone more positive.
It’s something I’d actually started doing a while ago, self pep talks along the lines of “you can do, you can do it, you can get this done or manage that” talking out loud to myself (by myself at home, not just while I’m out and about or sitting on the bus) and it does really help, you start to feel a lot better as if there is someone there with you, and it becomes much easier to take yourself out and deal with a situation.
Unfortunately, I can’t remember where I first saw read this, I think it was in a book but I can’t remember what one, but I’ve found the paper that talks about it. Or if you want a less scientific overview The Cut did a good article about it.
It’s well worth trying.